Adventures of a Pick-Up Artist
Pick Up Artist

I was chatting to a friend of mine recently who told me an interesting story about pick up artists running into the long arm of the law in central London, which brought back memories of the three PUAs who were recently arrested after being mistaken for pickpockets.

In this instance two PUAs were out filming some approaches in central London, and things were going well. A number close was on with a particularly fine young lady, until a nearby stall holder decided to blow open the set, showing terrible PU etiquette as he did so.

Firstly, he told the girl she was being filmed. Now, this is fair enough. It’s only right that people should know they’re being filmed. The chaps were going to tell her afterwards, and when she found out she didn’t actually care, thought it was funny, and was more than happy to carry on the interaction.

Then his story changed to a complaint about his stall being used for a commercial film. What? I’m not sure why anyone would rather film today’s cheap offers for a sausage roll instead of some top quality London totty, but whatever.

Then, when the police arrived, he tried to have them arrested for terrorism offences! No seriously, he claimed that they were filming a venue to blow up. Now, I’m a proud Londoner like the other seven million of us, and I know only too well the importance of keeping vigilant, but this just sounds too ridiculous!

Has anyone else ever been to central London and seen LOADS OF TOURISTS fliming things? Yeah, thought so.

Anyhow, the PUAs told the police officer exactly what they were doing, approaching women and filming it, so people could see exactly how it easy it was to start a conversation with a beautiful girl. Luckily the police officer could see little wrong with that, and decided not to opt for a full tear gas take down, and instead just took their names and addresses.

So only a minor inconvience suffered, all due to a rather bitter sounding stall holder. Does the word ‘jealously’ spring to the mind of anyone else? I personally think that this guy couldn’t handle seeing someone chat up a hot girl close to his horrid little burger shack. Wherever there’s a PUA, there will be a bitter guy who’s not getting laid close by.

However, even after all this palava, our man got the number, so it was a happy ending after all!

Brad (who is reminding all PUAs to remain vigilant in the face of terrorism)

It’s generally recognized that there are three stages of being a PUA. Attraction, comfort, and seduction. Most men can easily relate to the benefits of attracting and seducing a girl, but not so many see the value in building comfort, even though it’s a vital stage of seducing a girl.

If you go straight from attraction to seduction, you may get results in some cases, but a lot of the time you’re going to risk coming on too strong, and you the girl will probably be scared off.

If you spend all night in the attraction phase, the girl may think you’re a fun, interesting guy, but she won’t have really got to know you, and won’t necessarily have invested enough trust in you to let you seduce her. Jump straight into seduction mode, and you’ve come on too strong.

No matter how good you are, you have to keep to the structure, and that mean’s building comfort and rapport at some stage.

If you’re teasing a girl, flirting with her, and everything is going well, then don’t be afraid to take things into the comfort stage. As long as you’ve demonstrated that you’re you’re a fun and attractive person, it’s totally okay to lead her into the comfort phase, and start building solid rapport.

Building rapport and comfort will often be what makes the difference between getting a day 2 and not. If a girl has kissed a guy and exchanged numbers with him, she may have had a good evening, and enjoyed the guy’s company, but she might still wake up the next morning thinking, ‘That was fun, but I didn’t really know that guy.’ Crucially, if you haven’t built comfort, the trust element will be missing when she makes her decision of whether or not to meet you again. She may be attracted to you, but she may also be wary of meeting up with a guy who she doesn’t really know.

Get to know the girl. Ask her questions that other guys won’t ask. ‘If you could wake up tomorrow in a different country, where would it be?’ ‘Do you remember your first day at school?’ Make her describe her feelings to you, and work on eliciting strong emotions from her. Whatever question you ask, don’t ask another until you’ve connected on what she’s said. Take the conversation back to herself, make assumptions about what she’s told you, and don’t be afraid to challenge her.

After a conversation like this, you will have made a connection, and more importantly you will be someone who she feels she can relate to, and trusts. You can now move onto the seduction phase safe in the knowledge that you won’t be just another guy she’s met. You’ll be someone who has stood out from the other guys that she’s attracted to, which is why you’ll get a day 2.

Brad