Introverted or Shy

This is one person’s experience of being introverted but not, apparently, shy.

I’ve never been shy, but I am introverted! And I find making small-talk exhausting. The problem with being introverted is people assume that I’m not saying much because I’m timid. They try to be kind and get me chatting, and often I try to be kind and not blow them off. The next thing you know we’re talking about the weather and soybeans!

Alternatively, I’m perfectly capable of blabbing for long periods of time. I generally use my dog and my job as funny material. This method is always handy at a table full of truly withdrawn people who need some time to relax around strangers. Everyone has some kind of observation or story about at least one of those topics. Next thing I know, I have a full grown conversation going and I can sit back and listen.

The only thing wrong with silence is that some people feel like it’s imposed on them (lack of popularity, opportunity, weak conversational skills, etc…) rather than voluntary. It strikes me that this sense of isolation is generally self-inflicted. There’s a lot of people out there that are happy to listen to a total stranger talk at them.

The magic happens when you find it equally easy to talk and listen to a person.

From: http://www.datingadviceforums.com/

Also, it’s worth reading this approach anxiety blog.