I am sure all of you PUAs out there have heard of “The Game” by Neil Strauss. When the book was published it became a huge phenomenon all around the world that it gave an increasing amount of press-coverage to the whole of seduction community.  But the seduction community has been around there for many years before “The Game” was published, it was pretty much unheard of as it was operating as an ‘underground’ community.  

In the 1980’s, two California self-help gurus began selling their own advice for meeting attractive women. One of them was known as “R. Don Steele”, he focused on helping men over 35 meet younger women. The other, Ross Jeffries, promotes a collection of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques called “Speed Seduction”. In 1994, one of Ross Jefferies former student, Lewis De Payne, founded the newsgroup alt.seduction.fast (”ASF”). This was a place where seduction techniques were exchanged between pick-up artists.

The teachers within the seduction community believe that the conventional dating advice for men is fatally flawed. For example, the seduction gurus reject the notion that men should attempt to woo women by spending money on them (e.g. buying drinks, gifts, jewellery), calling it “supplication”. They also discourage flattery. They embed a belief in men that physical looks are less important to women in selection of a partner than they are to men, as evidenced by top gurus who rated poorly with their looks on a Hot or Not style of website. Members of the seduction community work on their seduction skills by improving their understanding of female psychology, their confidence and self-esteem, and also teach others their honed skills. The body of knowledge in the field of “pick-up” has grown in the past decade as millions of men around the globe have taken an interest in the subject. Many write up their personal experiences and construct theories of the self and of social dynamics to share with other students.

Over time other seduction teachers emerged with competing methods, and became known within this community as “seduction gurus” or “gurus”. Two of the most notable of these new teachers were Mystery and David DeAngelo. They have their own brand of seduction technique; Mystery uses scientific break-down of human behaviour and attraction theory and canned routines to teach his style of seduction called the Mystery Method. David DeAngelo has his unique brand of seduction called “cocky funny” which integrates making a women laugh as part of the seduction. Other notable “seduction gurus” go by names such as, Gunwitch, Juggler, Zan Perrion, Tyler Durden, Carlos Xuma, Stephen Nash and Style.

The seduction community has been receiving increased media attention, response to the seduction community has been varied; a review of The Game in the San Francisco Chronicle characterized the community as “a puerile cult of sexual conquest,” and calls its tactics “sinister” and “pathetic.”

The media attention and rapid growth of the seduction community has led to commercialization and competition. Teachers of seduction tactics now sell workshops, books, e-books, DVDs, and CDs over the internet and it has now turned into a multi-million dollar industry.

Saud

The term Bitch Shield refers to the primitive psychological protection ladies often put in an attempt to ward of those they consider creeps and/or misfits. It can usually be broken down by refusing to acknowledge the actual relevance of a bitch shield, hence making the imaginary self-defence device irrelevant. It is a front a woman will do to defend herself from getting played.

An example of a bitch shield is the following scenario: guy walks up to girl, and opens with whatever comes to his mind. Girl rolls eyes in head and turns her back to him, or gives him a pointy remark he can chew on for a while, or does the :”talk to the hand”-routine, or maybe she just turns away and starts talking to her friends while ignoring the one who approached. Numerous examples could be given, but the purpose of the bitch shield is to deflate the ego of any man approaching her, making him crumble right in front of her eyes.

Now, she doesn’t do that because she is actually a bitch or anything.  Just try and mentally step in the shoes of a good-looking woman, and think about what kind of moronic behaviour by men you would have to deal with on a day-to-day basis. So she is filtering out the chumps to get the champs.

Mystery would say that every hot woman are approached constantly and they have to put up a shield in order to not accept the advances of hundreds of men over the course of a week. You can call it a nice girl shield. The point is that men have to get around all of the defences very beautiful women erect to screen out hundreds of men per week. The key is not that she is a bitch. It is that every beautiful woman usually has their better personalities to show once you’ve survived the screen.
When a girl uses this defensive behavior, she’ll display these IODs:

Telling you she has a boyfriend
Saying rude or abrupt comments
Positioning her body away from you
Locking you out of a conversation
Letting her eye contact wander
Showing disinterest in what you’re saying
Being on guard and defensive to your comments
Pulling her friends away to a new location
or simply telling you go the hell away
So, when you FIRST approach a group of women, you NEED to immediately demonstrate these qualities:
Using subtle negs
Talk other women or bring one with you into the set
Giving a time constraint
Displaying disinterested body language
Looking like you’re ready about to walk away
Not letting her initial “Bitch Shield” affect you

By demonstrating mannerisms on your approach, you’ll subtly tell a woman that you’re trying to hit on them AND you’re not going to take up a lot of her time. This will help put her at ease and make her comfortable with your presence. And as the conversation evolves, you look for “The Hook Point”. This is the point in an approach when women start to show classic IOIs and now you can start building attraction.

As it was said by Mystery in The Mystery Method “Anything you can do that conveys higher survival and replication value is a DHV”. Lets take this quote into context, say you walk into a bar one night and you open a set but you already have two girls with you (they maybe just friends), what this will do is convey pre-selection to your target. It’s a DHV. When your target HB sees that you have other women around you, they feel attracted to you as a result of this demonstration of pre-selection. When a woman discovers that a guy has lot of money, she sees that he may be able provide her with a rich lifestyle, she will find him more attractive as it is a demonstration of higher value. But it’s not the case that you need to have a lot of money to DHV her. In fact, telling a woman that you have a lot of money is not DHV, if you are telling her “I own a Ferrari, I have a 10 bedroom mansion….etc” she will automatically realise that you are trying to impress her and will lose attraction.

Putting DHV spikes while telling her a story is something pick-up artists incorporate to their game to make the women figure out on her own that this guy must be awesome. Women love to screen so when she is interested, she will screen for more and more interesting facts about you. By putting them out up front, such as bragging, you are destroying her fun and shows you have a lack of confidence.

Other examples of DHV are where a woman sees that a guy has a lot of social proof from gaming the room or from seeing his social circle. Demonstrating to a woman that you are not needy, have a strong frame, being unaffected by her IOD as well as social intelligence and connecting with her conversationally are all DHV.

The real motive behind DHV is to then make her DHV you. You DHV and then look for IOIs in and then once she’s done that we make her DHV us so we can IOI her. It’s like a whole process of mirroring each other. There is one every PUA need to keep in mind, its that don’t put yourself into the mind frame that you must DHV in order seduce that HB, just keep in mind the higher value traits and relax while in an interaction and have fun.

Pick up is an addiction.
For a long while I was obsessed with pickup and the art of seducing women. Now, some of my friends and those of you that witness the regular updates of this site might still see me as under the influence of that same said obsession with sarging, but there’s a difference in my mindset now. Admittedly, many hours in my day are still spent devoted to pick up in some variety but I do it now out of interest and a desire to help others, and not the blind egotistical fixation it once was.
But my story is another story and not the one being told today. Instead, I’d like to return to a subject I introduced in the recent ‘Bookstore game’ article, the wonderful world of day game. This is a big subject and I feel that some of you might roll your eyes or think it second rate to hooking up in club … admit it, in your quest to find out more about pickup you’ve read a disproportionately higher amount of material relating to ‘night game’. So … before we dive in, allow me to share a few thoughts with you.
Recently I’ve been pondering as to why this sarging malarkey is so goddamn addictive! I mean there are some obvious reasons, there’s the rush that you get when you begin to realise the power you can wield over individuals and a situation – something which is often to blame for bad attitudes in the PUA community. Then of course there’s the delight at the increased attainability of sex with good looking HBs. However, as much as this CAN be a good motivator, I’ve equally seen it lead to guys getting comfortable and not push themselves any further. How does this relate to day game? Just keep reading …

In fact, thinking about it, I’m sure there are many different influences and motivations at play that have equally different levels of effect for different individuals. But, and this is key, there is a more general set of rules that pervade everything we do, that are so potent that they grabs us deep within, grab us by our very fabric and keep us coming back for more that little bit more. Well, that’s not entirely true. The ‘rules’ I’m speaking of are social convention and it’s not them per se that are so entrancing. No no. What is magical about pick up is that it breaks so many of these social conventions that have previously held us back.
The rich guy gets the girl. To get a HB you have to be good looking. If you’re going to be successful in life you need to have the right connections. Nice guys finish last. And these are just the clichés that are passed around the community. Every minute of every day of our lives social convention dictates to us how we should behave in a particular situation.
Some of it is hardwired; popular examples of this often passed around in the community refer back to ‘when we were cavemen’ and ‘fighting in the pack’. I’m a little sceptical of this specificity but there are definite fight-flight responses that are innate in us all and very powerful. Then there are the norms that are dictated to us, both directly and indirectly from the day we’re born.
These all come together so that 95% of the interactions that we engage in follow a preordained pattern of “Hi, How are you … Yeah, not bad …. not much really … what about you? ….. that’s cool … and what did you do on the weekend? …. yea weather’s been shit …. cheers mate … ok, see you around … take care”. WOW. I mean really. When you read that it seems ridiculous but you KNOW it’s true. And what’s worse, of the other 5% comparatively more interesting interactions you have, these are mostly with the closest of your friends\family that you have strong, real and individual relationships with. Which is cool. But wouldn’t it be great if we could relate and react in a similar organic fashion with EVERYONE. And we do, sometimes. On rare occasions. And this amasses the grand 0.001% of interactions that occur miraculously ever so often which leads to that 4 year girlfriend who they think is the one until they get dumped or whatever …. sad really. When you think about it.
BUT WE HAVE NO NEED TO THINK LIKE THAT. Because, my friends, we know that these rules, these conventions and social norms and sticking points are all … a lie. Or at the very least a distraction. And THAT is why pick up is like a drug that you just keep coming back for. Pickup, is a bazooka resting in our grip so that we can blow open the door to an actual, real and personally driven lifestyle. It’s a breath of fresh air that lets you see the world in a more truthful way every day.
Ok Brad slow down … what the fuck are you talking about? So I’ve put up with you and read this far and you’ve still not done me the courtesy of relating this back to the original subject. Day Game. Ok, ok … here it is. So, a pickup artist gains attention and becomes attractive by operating outside of, or at the very least, on the edge of social convention (I’m not advocating you become a social deviant). So what are nightclubs, bars etc? They are the zones in which it has become the norm to hookup with the opposite sex, and as I’ve said night game is cool, but we don’t need to restrict ourselves to that. No. My friends, the future is day game.
Because cold approaches when the sun is up are the ultimate renegade move on the part of the PUA. You’re throwing convention to the wind, two set walking down the street on their lunch break. They’re talking, maybe one is on the phone, they’re busy … no approach is possible. Wrong! No approach is expected, do it right with the right calibration and you will instantly become monumentally attractive because of the level of confidence displayed in such a bold and out of the norm move.
The thing is though, it doesn’t really take any more confidence now does it? All it takes is the realisation that this seemingly unapproachable set is just as fair game as the rest. And once you realise and do this … the drug just gets that more addictive. More details on day game and techniques in the next article!

I get a lot of people asking me what are the best openers, but often they don’t realise that it is not the openers that give you the power to seduce women. It is the transition that is more important, it is important to know how you are going to follow up your opener. Imagine this, when you open a HB with lets say, “Should I dye my hair blond?” you may get an answer as simple as “Yes” and you say “Alright, thanks, bye” its not too good. Only if you are very shy person and are starting out pick-up then its fine. You can say anything to open a HB but it’s important to be aware of what you are going to follow up with. For example, with this opener you can follow up with “Cool, because my hairdresser says I should dye it blond every time I go there, he’s a great guy, but I think he’s gay. Well he looks gay; do you think you can tell whether a man is gay?”  There are so different things that you can follow up, no matter what your opener is, you can say the lamest thing but it’s important to know how you are going to follow up your opener. If you go in an interaction with that much preparation, you can easily find a lot of hook points to carry on the conversation.

To increase your success rate, you should familiarise yourself with three characteristics that are important in seduction. They are:

Sociability

Having this skill enables you to make a very good first impression. This will be used at the initial stage of meeting someone. You should go in to one-on-one or group interactions with higher energy, and be able to get in with any group and make people relaxed and comfortable. People are always open to meeting someone who is sociable and enjoy themselves.

In order to develop the sociable traits you should go in with higher energy through body language and voice tone variations. Be positive while talking, most people are quite miserable and talk about negative things. So being positive will make you stand out and others around you will feel comfortable being with you.

Comfort

You need to start demonstrating comfort once you have integrated into the group. Because at the beginning people are not always very open when meeting a stranger, but once they have dropped the barrier you can start developing comfort in the interaction. You will realise you are in the comfort stage when people start committing more to the conversation, they will start talking more and longer and will be asking you questions as well. Now you will need to be talking 50 percent of the time and 50 percent listening, not talking too much about yourself and try to understand women, find common interests and building rapport. While being in the comfort zone you should be aware subconsciously not to be in the comfort zone for too long, otherwise you might fall in the ‘lets just be friends’ trap. So you need to inject some sexual tension at this point.

 Seduction

The seduction comes in after you have build comfort. The best way to do this is to inject some seductive traits such as speaking slowly, with a deeper voice, holding intense eye contact, touching her in an increasingly sexual ways.

The transition from one character traits to the other need to be smooth and flow naturally, if you learn all the three characteristics you will move smoothly from starting a conversation to getting intimate easily. It is a very useful skill. 

“The Natural Art of Seduction” by Richard La Ruina aka Gambler revitalises the theory of pickup by advancing on the traditional schools of thought

The pickup community is beset with techniques, routines and analyses claiming to unlock the door to success with women. In fact the field has become so saturated with literature that it’s almost impossible to find anything new which really makes you stand up listen … almost.

Richard La Ruina aka ‘Gambler’ in his book entitled “The Natural Art of Seduction” has created a system which takes the best from traditional PUA technique and advances it to create a more natural form of game. By providing a fluid and organic system, he moves away from the canned openers and routines that have become so prevalent amongst the pick up community, leaving you with a natural approach, easily utilised to attract the opposite sex.

‘Natural’ is a word often used among pick up artists. A natural is a guy who was blessed from birth. They’re ‘funny’. They’re ‘charasmatic’. They’re …. ‘good-looking’! In fact, for a long time since its inception it has seemingly been the aim, the ambition, nay … THE MANTRA of the pickup community to close the gap by fooling women-folk into believing that we too are naturals.

Yea, but if it gets you laid then who cares right? Well that’s true, in fact, like Gambler himself, it’s how most people within the community begin but, as La Ruina shows, using material that is unnatural to you not only gets boring after a while but it actually begins to work against you. Think about when you talk to a girl who seems fake and superficial, it’s not that difficult to tell when someone is betraying themselves with what they’re saying or doing. Furthermore, what happens after you open the girl, talk to the girl, get her number, kiss the girl, shag the girl …….. nothing. At least nothing happens if everything you’ve said and done has been disenfranchised from your own personality.

In both his style of writing and his method of approach Richard La Ruina has created a system which is simple and easy but can equally be applied to all manner of complex situations. He takes the fundemental outline from traditional pick up schools such as Mystery’s (real life name Erik Von Markovich) M3 model and deconstructs it into a more organic process that is situation specific. This includes emphasising strong, yet simple tools of seduction such as eye contact and creating\maintaing sexual tension, as well as a strong basis to advance the interaction through understanding the three different ‘characters of seduction’ that will tick a womens box (how’s that for innuendo!).

What’s more it really is of value to anyone despite their level of ability with women. If you’re a newbie who wets the bed at the mere thought of a ladies bosom, then you’ll benefit from the use of diagrams, pictures, a simple layout and step-by-step approach, allowing you to overcome the initial anxiety that leaves many of us going home at night with nothing but our mates and an empty kebab paper. If you’ve got more experience then “The Natural Art of Seduction” will show you how to progress in a spontaneous and natural fashion developing your ability to seduce women in a very healthy and individual way.

Neil Strauss’ “Rules of the Game” is the followup to his international bestseller “The Game” that hit stores in September 2005 and blew open the secret world of pickup artists.

It’s funny how a tenuous stream of events can alter your life so drastically. Just over a year ago, long before being aware of the world of pickup, pickup artists (PUAs) an average group of male, university students decided to break the monotony of London life by taking a 36 hour adventure to Sweden - land of beer and blonde bombshells. None of them had heard of the mPUAs (That’s master pick up artist for the layman) - Neill Strauss aka ‘Style or his mentor Erik Von Markovich aka ‘Mystery’. They knew nothing of ‘openers’, ‘kino’, ‘negs’, ‘peacocking’ (if you think I’ve slipped into a rural Serbian dialect then just read on).

In fact, as I recall there was drinking (and smoking) aplenty and yet despite the apparent abundance of said blonde beauties, interaction with the opposite sex was tantamount to a trip to A&E with a very obese brunette lady (Oh the irony). All in all, as with many testosterone-fuelled adventures, expectation surpassed achievement and just when you though it couldn’t get worse our return flight got delayed by 9 hours. Despite being awake for over a day, fate intervened and pushed away any will to sleep sending me on a trip to the bookshop - almost all the books were in Swedish, all but one.

“The Game” by Neill Strauss sat on a discount shelf and although my instant reaction was ‘well that looks like a bunch of shite!’, fate took over once again, grabbed me by short and curlies (most action I’d got all day) and sent me on a rollercoaster journey through Neil Strauss’ transition from girlfriendless geek (average frustrated chump - AFC) into a master seducer of women.

But I wont spoil the detail of that adventure for you now, besides you’re behind the times because where his first book took an autobiographical perspective, Strauss’ is back with a compendium of works entitled “Rules of the Game”. It contains two seperate pieces, ‘The Stylelife Challenge’ and ‘The Style Diaries’.

‘The Stylfelife Challenge’ is the offshoot of a 30 day challenge for those who have trouble with women that Strauss first released via his VIP mailing list. It takes shape as a comprehensive step-by-step guide that breaks down the process and technique required to land that ‘10 out of 10 girl’ you’ve always dreamt of.

The reader benefits from a more in-depth analysis of the techniques first introduced in ‘The Game’ in a structured ‘ready to use’ outline. This isn’t the magic pill that will provide you a quick-fix to all the woes of your sex life but a rigorous process of self-examination, briefings and field missions. Each day is broken down to give very specific goals - approach anxiety, dress, grooming, body language etc. The central concept being that by consistently working on and improving yourself in thise various fields, you will internalise themes of core confidence and seduction technique. This is in line with an neuro-linguistic programming theory which suggests that by repeating something for 21 days it will become habit; vital to ensuring that you don’t ‘overthink’ when it comes to those interactions in-field.

Just in case there are some out there who were starting to miss Strauss’ hilarious and eye-opening anecdotes, ‘The Style Diaries’ picks up where “The Game” left off depicting Style back to his best - among other stories - luring a famous musician’s granddaughter into a threesome, his personal stress and frustration of the ‘30 day experiment’ and how Neil Strauss found “the woman of his dreams” during a night on the tiles in Reykjavik.

“As a result, I hurt people’s feelings, made bad choices, took unhealthy risks, missed important opportunities, and committed irreversible blunders.
I also had some amazing sex.
And therein lies the conflict.” - Preface to “Rules of the Game: The Style Diaries

The true wealth of Neil Strauss is in his ability to highlight the potential pitfalls of a lifestyle devoted to pick up. He explores the darker sides of seduction and the wider choices you make in life, a theme carried across from his original book. Of the eleven stories he covers all fall into the worlds of either the wierd or the wonderful (most fall into both), taking place in many different countries and each working as a moralistic fable highlighting the good and bad of pick up.

So, if you’re yet to delve into the realm of the pick up atrists then “The Game” and “Rules of the Game” are a great place to start - you’ll wonder how you ever got by without them. Then again maybe you’re more content to lie hungover and half-awake in the Swedish airport lounge staring at the ceiling and counting your sorrows … only 8 and a half hours to go.

Strange, really.  When you think about it.  How we can come so far and then.  Stop.  After progressive frustration from years of less than success with women, it’s very common to see budding PUAs progress tenfold in a short space of time.  All that pain and heartache (ball-ache), that tormented you night after night makes way for the newfound bliss of being able to get the chicks you want.  Unfortunately this surge in achievement often plateaus into relative mediocrity, when there is so much more potential that they could utilise.  You can number close with regularity at your local bar\club and occasionally those number lead to a kiss or a f-close so you become content.  You stop sarging, stop reading new articles and just cruise.

THIS IS YOUR WAKE UP CALL … we’ve only just begun!  One of the many areas of pickup that people neglect is day game.  Sure a club is a cool place to find HBs but why limit yourself?  You may be resembling a Dracula’s cousin because you only wake in the late hours, but I guarantee you wont perish if you venture out in the sunlight.  So do it, get out there.

Now that you’re ready to begin your adventure into the wonderful world of day game, where to begin?  Bookstores!  Bookstores! Bookstores!

Bookstores are the sandbox for budding masters of day game.  Think about it, so many of the sticking points that have previously got in your way don’t apply in this environment.  Unlike in a club situation where your 8s, 9s and 10s are guaranteed to be in some sort of group, it’s not uncommon to find an HB on her own in a bookstore browsing the shelves.  No obstacles!!

What about the old ‘I don’t know what I’d talk about’ sticking point.  Well even people who ‘don’t read much’ will be able to find a section of the store that applies to their interests – cooking, sport, film , German dwarf pornstars …. You get the picture.  If you like it there are books about it!  As a perfect example, I was once in a large bookstore near where I live and saw an attractive brunette looking at a copy of Neill Strauss’ ‘The Game’.  I hit her with an opinion opener, asking whether she thought ‘that stuff’ works.  We joked around about how lame it sounded … then I n-closed her.

The key is that if you can genuinely relate to the material in the section that you interact with the HB then you’ve already got the foundations for that all important rapport that will help elicit strong levels of attraction on her part.  In fact, although each chick is an individual, it’s funny how certain types always congregate in certain sections ready to be bagged by a sly PUA.  That’s right, bookstores are like superstores for connoisseurs of pickup.  Fancy a trendy\artsy chick? they’re found between Drama and Modern Art, more in the mood for the broody, Goth type?  Just head on over to Edgar Allen Po!

Bookstores are opener friendly as well.  Some keep it simple with a  ‘Do you think this book is good?’, but I’d personally steer clear of this.  The HB will either have no knowledge\opinion of the book in question or it’ll be such a common book that it can DLV.  Far better is a variation on this form of opinion opener “It’s my friend’s\sister’s etc. birthday what book would you recommend for a gift?”.  Even better, and a personal favourite of mine, is “I’m trying to get a present for a friend, do you think this is too effeminate?” You can play with the responses to this in all manner of ways, saying how you have a butch female friend and you don’t know how she’ll respond do you getting her a prissy present etc.

The point is that bookstores are a great place to open up interactions, once it’s up and running it’s a normal set.  A lot of bookshops now have coffee places inside them which are great for bouncing to and advancing the interaction further.  Happy hunting bookworms!

Keys to the VIP is a Canadian reality TV show aired on the Comedy Network and Fuse TV. The show involves two self-proclaimed PUA (Pick-up Artists) competing against each other to pick-up women in a real bar. The two pick-up artists go head-to-head with each other in three rounds with objective to seducing women. Their antics are closely watched on hidden cameras by four judges, expert in their own style of seduction. The winner of each episode is rewarded with a party in a private VIP room with a select group of friends.

The judges are : there’s Alen, the calculating Don Juan who cuts through the flannel and tells you exactly where it’s at; Chris, the traditional romantic of the four whose fixation on poetry and integrity would have seen him get less ass than a software developer were it not for his model good looks and financial success; Peachez - a slick talking frat-boy brother who honed his pick up skills out in the field and last of the four Sheldon, the suave contrarian who holds his own counsel and often wields the deciding vote on the panel.

Keys to the VIP features PUAs of different skill levels, some episodes feature contestants who are classified as MPUA (Master Pick-up artist) in the pick-up community. They are great fun to watch as, seeing them run real tight games is inspiring to viewers who are new to the seduction community and are learning The Game. Episodes featuring Mark Sparks and Kyle “The Diesel” and Donny “Danger” and Leo “The Carpenter” were great examples of picking up women in bars. Some episodes will feature ‘players’ who are just chumps who seem to never get any ass as much as they like to think they do. But still, indirectly these guys are giving you lessons on how not to approach women. In my opinion, the show is a must watch if you are new to the community and want to learn pick-up by watching others.

Dance has been around from the beginning of time and is one of the most used arts for one to express themselves.

‘I wanna make love in this club’. My frame was ready, my vibe was intriguing and my smile was a million dollars. As i stepped onto the dance floor with a bop in my step, i spotted this HB she was a 9, brunette, 5ft 5′, with curves just like a coco cola bottle. She was alone which I thought was strange so i thought i’d be the perfect person to keep her company. I was in a crowded area surrounded by most guys doing the typical hovering and staring, around a two set. One of them saw me she was a young cute blonde, I gave her a smile and a wink, I was different to the guys I stood and moved like I was the prize, which was probably why she signalled for me to go over and save her and her friend from the hungry predators. I pretended like i didn’t understand and then got swamped by the overloaded guys. ‘Good’ I said to myself this gave me an excuse to have to move closer towards my target. I wanted to be in front of her so she could see me. Now i was in place it was time, i made sure my chest was out, my legs were wide a part and my dance moves were simple, smooth and slow. It was just a under half way through the song ‘Umbrella’ a song which irritates the *BEEP* out of me. I was ignoring her for the most part only to now and then glance over into her direction (Though using my periphrals to see how she moves and where shes looking). The new song was on ‘Love In The Club’ my blood was pumping, i looked over, i caught her eyes and made sure i kept the contact even though my eyes wanted to look away due to habit. I gave her a playful smile, she looked away, DAMN she wasnt interested, then i saw her give a half look in my direction with the cutest smile ever. I knew I was on her mind. I told myself I need to make it happen right now (following the 3 second rule) or it will just be harder later. So I kept my eye contact on her and no-one else, its just me and her in the room now. I walk over to her, she looks at me then looks away, she looks at me then looks away. I look at myself for a second and realise im approaching head on which is a no no as it can be quite intimidating, so I switch my directions so I’m coming from an angle. I finally get to her, grab her hand, look in her eyes and tell her ‘you look like you need company let’s dance’. She smiles, i take that as a yes. We dance, I pull her in, I push her away and say as a little as possible. If you guys don’t know dancing with a girl is one of the best ways to esculate kino, so I’m sure you can imagine what I was doing ;). The song is coming to an end, I want to isolate her so i can continue the interaction.

Rico: You look like your having trouble keeping up with me (cheeky smille).
HB: (laughs) No, im fine I’ve got a lot of stamina (laughs)
Rico: Really? Maybe you can show me how much later, but first you gotta buy me a drink
HB: (laughs) Maybe
Rico: Let’s go sit down.
HB: Well I was waiting from my friends to get back and i don’t want them to worry.
Rico: Ah S**t I knew it was to good to be true for you to be alone, I was talking to myself at this point obviously ;). Ok Rico reframe.
Rico: Well im sure your a woman who is mature enough to make decisions for herself, obviously your friends think so otherwise they would’nt leave you alone.
HB: That’s true
Rico: (Smile and grab her hand) Come on, we’ll find them later.

Now guys what you have to understand about dance floor game is that there is no specific way. There is only a structure you can create for yourself and then go with the flow. Here is my secret.

Do’s

Smile.

Positive Body Language - chest out, legs apart, slow movements, head up

Have Fun - enjoy your own company or who ever your with.

Glance over now and then. Let her know you have noticed her.

Dance - If you feel uncomfortable learn a few simple moves, check out youtube or just watch music videos. ‘We all have a heart, which beats to a rhythm, you just have to be intune with it.’

Don’ts

Stare at women, they are not meat.

Hover around, hoping that will get women to dance with you, it won’t. It will only intimidate them and create a negative social proof on your part.

If your a dancer go on the middle of the dance floor trying to show off your moves, if you know your not a very good dancer then definately do not do this. This portrays to women not confidence but needieness for attention, which is a turn off for both men and women.

Approach straight on and definately do not approach from behind.

Try talking to her unless your fairly close or dancing with her. Otherwise you’ll be shouting over the music for her to hear you which will annoy her and demonstrate lower value.

If your target is in a two set or more, you can follow the exact structure but before dancing with her you need to interact with her friends so they become comfortable and see you as no threat, this will then make your target automatically comfortable with you and only want to please her friends by dancing with you. You can interact with the set by mimicing them or teaching them a dance move. Just remember be playful!

In conclusion women love to go out clubbing to either have fun with their girlfriends and meet new and exciting people (you!), to show off that new outfit they just bought and the most important of them all to DANCE!

Rico PUA