Adventures of a Pick-Up Artist
Pick Up Artist

One of the best things I learned from PU was to stop thinking about what other people are doing, and concentrate on yourself. Stop thinking about how much everyone else is getting laid, and concentrate the success that you’re having. If you constantly compare yourself to others, you will constantly find ways in which you come up short.

One of the problems a lot of my students complain about is that they are not getting laid as much as their friends. This is ridiculous for a couple of reasons. Firstly, you have no real idea how much your friends are getting laid, and it’s highly probable that they will be talking up their sexual exploits rather than talking them down. Secondly, everyone around you has to deal with their own challenges and problems to succeed, and these may differ a great deal from your situation.

A rich and successful investment banker may feel jealous of a barman who appears to live a care free life with the luxury of time on his hands. Where as a barman may feel jealous of the banker who is rich and successful and has a structured life. The fact is, whatever you do, there will always be someone who is out performing you in some area, be it money, job satisfaction, or having more fun.

There is no point constantly comparing yourself to others as this is will never result in contentment. If you go out with a ‘10’ someone else will eventually come along with a more attractive girl on their arm, and all of a sudden your girl is less good looking by comparison. This shouldn’t bother you, and instead try to concentrate on the fact that you have a gorgeous girl on your arm without making it a competition.

Be content with yourself and what you’re doing, and don’t worry about how many women Russel Brand is bringing home every night, and don’t let ‘Nuts’ magazine convince you that everyone out there is having threesomes with impossibly good looking women. Concentrate on yourself and what you’re achieving. The best way of doing this is to record your progress, so that you can look back at where you were months or years ago, and feel content in how far you’ve come and what you’ve achieved.

Brad

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Some people can make PU very complicated, breaking down all aspects of interaction and looking at the ‘value’ what people do and say. I don’t feel that this approach is in any way constructive, and merely serves to overcomplicate and confuse things, which is going to hold back your improvement.

I find that I get the best results when I simplify things with students, which is why I’m sharing what I consider to be the five most fundamental elements of improving game.

1. Don’t make excuses not to approach

People love to make excuses for themselves. Students often say that they’re too tired to run game in the evenings, or that they don’t live in a good area, or that they don’t have a wingman to go out with. There will always be excuses not to approach. Remove them.

2. Get a new look

If you haven’t done this already, make sure you start dressing well. If you have no idea how to do this, then go to your local newsagents and buy some men’s magazines which contain fashion pages that you can copy. Go to some fashionable high street stores, and look at what the mannequins are dressed in. Copy it to the letter if you’re not sure, or simply ask the shop assistants for their advice. Go to an upmarket hair salon and ask them what they think would look good for your hair.

3. Set yourself goals

What are you trying to achieve from game? Sleep with lots and lots of women? Date only the best looking women? Get a girlfriend? Loose your virginity? Whatever it is, write down what your long term goal is, and then write down what steps you are going to take to get there. For example, rather than just saying to yourself ‘I want to get a girlfriend’, and then getting anxious about not having one, write down the steps that you are going to take to improve your chances of getting a girlfriend. These may include expanding your social circle by joining various clubs and hosting more parties etc. Tick off these smaller goals as soon as you pass them, and then concentrate on the next stage. It will help keep you motivated and focused to see yourself improve, and you are more likely to achieve your long term target if you tackle it in stages.

4. Slow down your speech, and speak slowly, and leave pauses

Speaking slowly is a key part of being confident in any social interaction, and it’s also a big part of being seductive. So many students talk fast when they’re in set, and they cannot help but fill any pause in conversation with nervous chatter. Don’t do this! Make a mental note to try and speak extra slowly in at least one set each day, and to leave more pauses than you usually would, then analyse how different you feel in these sets compared to others. You will probably notice that you feel more confident and in control, and you may also notice that girls will happily fill the natural silences that happen in conversations.

5. Use kino

‘When should I start using kino?’ is a question that I’m often asked, and my answer is ‘immediately’. Using kino is vital in building attraction and comfort, however it is not something that comes naturally to most men. Start using kino in your conversations by breaking your arms at the elbows and start gesturing as you speak, making a conscious effort to throw in as many light touches as possible.

Remember to make eye contact with the girl as you kino her, and to make your touches light and quick. Women are much more sensitive to touch than men, and so even when we think we’re touching them gently we may actually still be too rough.

Expect using kino to feel unnatural at first, but keep forcing yourself to do it, and you will soon find that you are doing it without thinking, and will therefore have a greater chance of building attraction and comfort, as well as forcing IOIs.

So, there you have my five simple points that anyone can incorporate into their game to start getting better with women. If you work on these simple points, rather than sitting in front of your computer memorizing a ton of material, you will find that your game will improve dramatically.

So what are you waiting for?

Brad

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